Monday, December 13, 2004

jill and ben's wedding

i left on friday afternoon to attend the wedding of an old roommate. i'd had so many complications with my bridesmaid dress and other things that were of importance for me to attend this wedding, that when the weekend actually arrived, i was hoping everything would come off without much effort. friday afternoon, i made it into town and got to the church right on time for the rehearsal. everything was going smooth until...bam...they realized the food that was suppose to be catered in hadn't arrived yet and it was way past time. a phone call later, they found out that for some reason the order had never been received...this leaving an absolute irate jill. after 20 minutes of pausing the rehearsal, a few phone calls made by ben, and a very upset jill, the food was on its way free of charge. we convinced them that it was definitely worth waiting for if it was going to save them some money. with the "one big wedding disaster" being over with everything else had to go off just fine. and it did.

during the weekend, there were many things that came up and something popped into my head saying, "you should blog about this." but now that i'm actually sitting down at a computer, i can't remember what exactly those things were.

the wedding was absolutely gorgeous. the church was decorated for christmas with a million pointsettias, christmas decor, trees, and lights. there was such a christmas-y feel to it. very elegant.

everything about the wedding itself was traditional for the most part. the lighting of the unity candle took place as the rascal flatts song 'bless the broken road' was sung. at that point, the bride and groom went to the center for their prayer. after a few moments, the bridesmaids and groomsmen walked up and surrounded them, placed our hands on them and the groomsmen lead prayers over the two of them. it was very amazing to be able to take part in the prayer that will bless the lives of both ben and jill and their unity together as they grow in Christ as a family.

the power of words continue to amaze me. marriage is just that. committing by words to love and support each other. okay, so it's more that just words, but the actual wedding ceremony is the profession of the love that two people share for each other. during the exchanging of the vows, there was something that was so powerful it caught me off guard. the vows were the traditional...

"i, take you to be my (wife/husband),
to have and to hold you from this day forward,
for better or for worse,
for richer, or for poorer,
in sickness and in health.
i further promise to love you and cherish you,
and be faithful to you for as long as we both shall live."

except there was an added sentence of "i will never divorce you." pretty powerful. especially in this day and age where divorce is so common marriage isn't even necessarily a life long promise to each other at all, but merely an i-love-you-right-now-and-want-to-commit-myself-to-you-but-maybe-not-FOREVER-because-forever-is-a-long-time promise. "i will never divorce you." five simple words that are so powerful and completely state in one sentence what being married truly means. a commitment to each other to be with each other forever. almost a slap in the face, but not in a bad way. in a way that makes you look at something in a totally different light than you ever have before.

now i've never been "wedding crazy" or anything and i've never been obsessed with being married. do i want to. yes, of course. i have deep desires to be married and start a family. after dealing with this wedding, i'm definitely realizing how much stress it all can be. but to spend the rest of your life with one amazing. one day, i will be blessed with a Godly man who will sweep me off my feet and carry me into the rest of my life, but until then, i'll just continue with life until i meet him.

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